From Crush to Love: How Long Does It Really Take?
There’s an age-old saying that you’re in love if your crush lasts more than four months.
But this isn’t true.
This belief has persisted for ages, a fascinating discrepancy between science and psychology. In truth, if you find yourself liking someone for over four months, you start to wonder if you’ve fallen in love without realizing it. Once this thought settles in your mind, it becomes difficult to forget that person if you’ve liked them for that long.
You might have a crush on someone for a month or two, then give up and move on. You try to get back on track with your life and manage to forget them. It’s easy. But if you like someone for more than four months, your subconscious makes it harder to forget them. You become more afraid of rejection. Your worries increase. The pain is even greater if you fall for someone who will never feel the same way.
But is it really love? This raises a question.
The first thing to understand is that excitement is not love. This is something experts constantly remind us. When a person is close to someone attractive, their heart beats faster. Brief touches, shared moments, and even laughter can make the heart race. These experiences make us wonder if we’re falling in love.
The point is that love is something that cannot be precisely measured by time or proximity. True love is often found at the final stage of infatuation, known as unconditional love.
For some, falling in love takes only a few seconds. For others, it might take years.
There is such a thing as love at first sight, and there are also loves that develop slowly, day by day, through shared experiences.
Having a long-term crush on someone can trick our minds. Be aware of that. When you truly fall in love, you won’t realize when or how it happened.
You’ll only know that you’re in love when you start caring about the other person more than yourself.
